Becca P., OH

Over the course of 19 months, extensive small-cell lung cancer slowly took the breath away from my best friend—my dad, Barry. My role as a daughter gradually shifted into that of a caregiver.

It all began when Barry noticed a lump on his neck and mentioned it to my mom. A visit to the dentist prompted a strong recommendation to see a doctor. From the very first visit with his primary care physician, concerns arose, and whispers of the “C” word began. Scans and biopsies were ordered, and our family of three gathered nervously in an exam room at University Hospitals, awaiting the diagnosis.

The oncologist explained that Barry’s 40+ years of smoking had led to cancer in his lungs, which had spread to his lymph nodes. Extensive small-cell lung cancer was described as fast-growing and difficult to treat if it returned. His initial treatment regimen included chemotherapy, radiation, and immunotherapy. These treatments kept the cancer at bay for seven months. But then, it returned aggressively, spreading to his brain, abdomen, adrenal glands, and forming a large, painful tumor on his left cheek—marking the first time the disease became truly life-altering.

Radiation to the brain caused severe side effects, including eating difficulties and significant weight loss. Barry enrolled in a clinical trial that successfully shrank his cancer nodules but left him drained of energy and vitality. A second bout of pneumonia landed him in the hospital, and after a candid discussion with Dr. Dowlati and his medical team, we made the decision to bring Barry home on hospice care. There, he lived his final days with dignity and surrounded by love. On October 11, 2024, Barry took his last breath.

I never imagined applying to be a Lung Force Hero, but life had other plans. Throughout my dad’s journey, the key to maintaining perspective was not judgment but empathy. Barry’s only request after his diagnosis was that we avoid lecturing him about how his smoking led to his illness. I honor that request by sharing his story, not to preach, but to connect. I aim to be a lung cancer advocate who meets people where they are, holds their hand, and reminds them they are seen and supported during this difficult journey.